5 RULES OF MARRIAGE
21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
Whatever you don’t maintain & cultivate, you eventually lose!
A happy wedding will not translate to a happy marriage, except effort is applied.
[ANY MAN YOU SEE WITH BICEPS, TOOK OUT TIME TO BUILD IT, THAT IS THE WAY MARRIAGE IS BUILT]
Love can be found by accident BUT it must be DELIBERATELY nurtured to survive!
- THE RULE OF ABSOLUTE SUBMISSION.
After saying ‘I DO’ you are now in a covenant of intractable submission
After you decide on whom to marry, your choice of submission is withdrawn!
WOMEN: if you cannot submit to a man, don’t marry him!
[THAT IS WHY WITH THE CULTURE OF RESPECT I HAVE AS PARTLY YORUBA, I AM NOT A FAN OF A WOMAN MARRYING A YOUNGER MAN. I DON’T UNDERSTAND HOW SHE WILL GREET HIM IN THE MORNING OR SUBMIT TO HIM]
The key to submission is REVERENCE!
[Reverence means: RESPECT, ADMIRATION & WORSHIP]
- THE RULE OF TOTAL LOVE.
8 And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins.
9 Use hospitality one to another without grudging.
After today, you must love your wife; irrespective of her flaws
Nourish your love because love GROWS, love REDUCES, love EXPIRES & love DIES.
Love does not just happen; it takes REAL EFFORT!
MEN: if you don’t love a woman, don’t marry her because you will face many temptations that ONLY LOVE can repel.
The key to true love is to CHERISH & NOURISH your wife!
[Cherish & nourish means: TREASURE, ESTEEM, APPRECIATE & FEED, NURTURE, CULTIVATE & SUPPORT]
- THE RULE OF TOTAL FORGIVENESS
No matter how offended you get, always leave the forgiveness door open in marriage!
[THE PPLE YOU APPRECIATE OUTSIDE IS BCOS YOU DON’T LIVE WITH THEM IN THE SAME HOUSE]
In your union don’t forget the 70 X 70 forgiveness rule.
- THE RULE OF COMPULSORY COMMUNICATION
Talk about everything & you will see there is so much to talk about!
When you start keeping secrets, you start growing apart!
Read together; pray together; eat together; watch TV together & you will always find things to talk about!
Without communication, understanding cannot be achieved!
[& UNDERSTANDING IS KEY FOR ANY MARRIAGE TO WORK]
- THE RULE OF SOLE OWNERSHIP
As a believer, your body is ONLY for your partner!
When you share your body with anyone apart from your spouse, you have broken the bond of marriage
CONCLUSION: It takes WORK to make a marriage WORK; love can start it; but work MUST build it!